Respecting and Communicating With Coaches
Coaches and parents have different roles, but a shared goal.
Respecting the Coach’s Decisions
Recognise the Commitment
Many community coaches volunteer significant time preparing sessions, communicating with families and supporting players. They will not get every decision right, just as players and parents will not. A respectful relationship gives everyone a better chance of working through concerns constructively.
If You Have a Concern
1. Pause before approaching the coach, especially if you are angry or upset. Give yourself time to settle.
2. Choose a suitable time away from the game—not during play, immediately after a heated moment, or in front of the children.
3. Explain the concern calmly and specifically. Ask questions rather than assuming you know the reason for a decision.
4. Listen to the coach’s perspective and keep the conversation focused on your child’s wellbeing and development.
5. If the concern remains unresolved, follow the club’s current communication or complaints process.
A Useful Check-In
When emotions are high, waiting until the next day before raising a non-urgent concern can help you speak clearly and listen properly. Immediate safety concerns should always be raised promptly through the appropriate channel.
Helpful Ways To Start
“Could you help me understand what you’re working on with the team at the moment?”
“My child has been feeling unsure about something. What would be the best way for us to support them?”
“Can we arrange a suitable time to talk about a concern I have?”
